I’m quite a sucker for romantic comedies. As much as that statement contradicts the foundation of the state of my being right now, I just can’t help but enjoy movies like that. I mean, who wouldn’t want to, at least, see a happy ending. Well, I still try my best to not fall prey on those really cheesy movies.
One of the most recent ones I have seen is “Silver Linings Playbook” starring Jennifer Lawrence, Bradley Cooper, Robert DeNiro, Jacki Weaver and Chris Tucker. I admit that I was interested on the film because of a) Jennifer Lawrence and b) the Oscars buzz the film was getting. Yeah, I would like to think that I have quite the liking for really good movies, but I know my judgment has its lapses, if not my whole judgment was nothing but a big lapse altogether.
It was a really nice movie, I can say. Having seen it three times already, and not a single time I didn’t enjoy. I just think that there’s so much into it than just the regular romantic-comedy plot. I men, yes, it’s boy meets girl, then there are conflicts and there’s a happy ending for everyone. But the way I see it, if it’s me reading the signs, the story of Pat and Tiffany covers a whole lot more than just being a fairytale love story.
Pat Jr. (Cooper) has just gotten out of a mental institution and is trying to get his life back together after his wife cheated on him, and eventually being diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He moves back in with his parents: superstitious, ill-tempered, obsessive and compulsive Pat Sr. (DeNiro) and caring and understanding Dolores (Weaver). As Pat tries to reconnect with his old life, he meets Tiffany (Lawrence), a young widow who has developed an obssesion with sex. They became the most unlikely friends as they try to get over their quirks and try to get their lives back on track.
Seeing the film over and over, I was able to see through the layers the plot worked around with. For one, it made me realize how awesome Jennifer Lawrence sounds when she curses (approximately 30 times throughout the 2-hour film) and how breath-taking she looks as she dances. But, Jennifer Lawrence aside, the film really showed more than just what a typical romantic comedy offers.
Of course, there is the part about “craziness”. I mean all of the characters in the movie has their own crazy, but somehow things work out for them. Perhaps not outside their circle, but it still works out. I mean, you don’t need to surround yourself with a lot of people, you don’t need everybody’s approval. As long as you have people who never ask you to work for theirs, then you are good. And, admit it or not, we all have our own “crazies”. We all do.
The film also showed how Tiffany’s character pointed out how she “was a big slut, but I’m not any more. There’s always going to be a part of me that’s sloppy and dirty, but I like that. With all the other parts of myself.” Then asking Pat, “Can you say the same about yourself fucker? Can you forgive? Are you any good at that?” That scene just showed how Tiffany handled her situation differently. She was bad, she did bad things but she’s aware of it. She embraced it instead of denying it. That quality of hers showed great contrast with Pat’s, hence making a good dynamic between their characters.
Picking up from that, we know that we all make mistakes. And it is up to us if we will choose to be like Pat, who somehow tries to deny his past and just move forward, or be like Tiffany, who recognizes her mistakes as she tries to recover.
And of course, there’s family. Family and friends, who, despite of their quirks and our quirks, still takes us in for who we are and who we are not. And it’s a two-way relationship, considering that we are all crazy in our own rights. I mean, they won’t take us if we won’t take them. Just like how the Solitanos live in peace despite their own different craziness.
Of course there’s the romance. How “the only way to beat my crazy was by doing something even crazier.” You know, none of us needs to be perfect in order to be loved. Perfection is overrated, if not totally unnecessary. Someday someone will come along, someone you’d open up to and with without feeling judged. Someone who would join you in your quirks, sometimes beating you off into it. There’s hope for everyone.
And, yes, the silver lining. For me, I think sometimes we try to look far and hard for things that will make us happy. We get too far inside our head that our vision is closed for those outside. For those that are happening. I’m not saying that I have found my silver lining, but I am open to the thought that maybe my silver lining lies on the search itself.
Yes, life can be suffocating at times. Sometimes everything just comes rushing in at once and we just want a break from all of it. It’s crazy and difficult and frustrating. But nobody said that life would be normal or easy or satisfying all the time. Ideally, it would be. But we have to snap out of it and realize that life isn’t an idea, life is reality. And in reality, we will get hurt and disappointed and betrayed and knocked down. People will come and go, and yes, there are more people who wouldn’t care than those who would. We will make mistakes, we will do crazy things. Yes, apologies are in order but we have to realize that mistakes won’t define us. Labels won’t define us. People around us can’t define us. Let people judge you, that’s life. But once you realize that life doesn’t always hand us the good stuff, sooner than later, the silver lining would come around.